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I just realized I haven't been keeping this thing updated as regularly as I should or want. I must admit that the ease of Facebook has completely taken over, even though I should make more of an attempt to document my life here.

I call my mom every day. Every single day around 3:30 PM or so, I call her to make sure she's OK. It's something I enjoy doing.

On Thursday, October 21, I noticed something was wrong: her speech had become nonsensical. She was putting together words that didn't make sense and was even using made-up words. I attributed this to being particularly tired. When she's tired, Mom will forget some words and become frustrated as a result. So, I said goodbye, told her to get some rest and ended the call.

When I called her on Friday, same thing. I was now very concerned. I called the nurses' station at the residence and was informed that they had noticed this too. They ruled out a stroke since Mom was completely mobile, and showed no signs of paralysis and no facial drooping. They said Mom was very calm, and seemed very comfortable. They attributed it to, perhaps, a reaction to some meds they'd given her, or even a sudden advancement of her early stages of Alzheimer's. They assured me they'd keep monitoring her. We discussed the possibility of a TIA. The nurse couldn't confirm this, but she said it might be the case. Mom had an appointment with the doctor that Monday and would probably undergo neurological testing.

Of course, I was a mess the rest of the weekend. I continued calling Mom each day, but her speech was incomprehensible.

Monday came, and she was sent to the hospital for evaluation. Her physical revealed perfect vital signs: other than for this state of confusion, she was perfectly healthy. The following day, she had a brain scan and it revealed that she suffered a left temporal hematoma, which is essentially a bruise that results in some blood pooling in the brain. The doctor told me that there was no sign of a fall or hit, and that this is something that occasionally happens to elderly people. There is, unfortunatley, no remedy for this except time. The body needs to reabsorb the blood, and this may take days or weeks, depending on the person. Additionally, there's a chance that she will not improve at 100%...as we age, our brains harden and are less elastic, so they don't fully bounce back (literally) from issues like this.

I've been praying, and praying hard. I've been an emotional mess. When rationale takes over, I'm fine: Mom is not critically ill, she might need some additional supervision at the residence, it'll cost more but there is some money there to cover this, and there's the possibility that she'll recover enough. But when the emotions take over, I lose it: she'll remain unable to speak properly from now on, and I've lost the mom I've known all my life...it's like speaking to a stranger that has my mom's voice, and we'll run out of money for her long-term care.

Throughout all this, Mom has remained upbeat, positive, and seems to understand what she is told. She just can't reply properly. During some of our conversations, I've had to tell her that I don't understand her, and she's replied, "I know."

Eric and I will be going up there this weekend. It's a trip we had planned well before this happened. It was going to be a pre-holidays happy trip to see Mom and hang out with her for a few days. This has changed everything.

She's still at the hospital. The doctors and the social worker are meeting today to determine whether they'll keep her there a bit longer, or if they'll send her back home. I'd prefer she stay at the hospital, but if she goes back home, at least I know there's supervision there...it's not like it was over a year ago when she still lived on her own.

So, prayers, please. If prayers aren't your thing, then I ask for good thoughts, positive vibes, or whatever your personal beliefs call for in times like these.

Thank you.

Date: 2010-11-03 03:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dendren.livejournal.com
hugs and prayers to you and your mom. xoxoxoxo

Date: 2010-11-04 11:53 am (UTC)

Date: 2010-11-03 04:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] musicbearmn.livejournal.com
Hang in there....I know exactly how you feel.

Date: 2010-11-04 11:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eurodancemix.livejournal.com
As the kids say: this really sucks, doesn't it?

Date: 2010-11-03 06:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] circusfolk.livejournal.com
Prayers coming your way.

Date: 2010-11-04 11:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eurodancemix.livejournal.com
Thank you. I appreciate that very much.

Date: 2010-11-04 04:15 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Tons of prayers, good thoughts and positive vibes sent your way. Go up and have a wonderful time with your mom; make the most of every day with her as best you can!

Date: 2010-11-04 04:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eurodancemix.livejournal.com
Thank you very much. I appreciate that.

Date: 2011-02-10 04:38 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
How's Mom doing? We miss your posts!

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